On Becoming: The Ever-Evolving Self
"Well, I don’t know what I want to be. Every day when I wake up, I want to be something different than the day before—maybe it’s to be kinder or more outgoing, maybe a little thinner, maybe more provocative. What I want to be is not defined by any particular title: lawyer, teacher, artist. What I want is to be a better person—eager to learn, choosing to grow, and determined to stay open to this process. The point is to be me the entire time, but always changing ever so slightly."
I wrote the quote above years ago, and I’m so grateful that it still holds true. Every morning, we have the opportunity to decide who we want to be and how we want to show up in the world. No matter where life takes us or what roles we step into, my hope is that our deepest intentions remain the same—to keep growing, to be a force for change, and to meet each day with an open and soft heart.
There is something deeply sacred about this ongoing transformation of the wild and wonderful self, this daily choice to be something new and more expansive while still holding onto the essence of who we are. It’s not about striving for perfection or defining ourselves by rigid identities but about staying open—to life, to possibility, to the pull of something greater moving through us.
Martha Graham said it beautifully:
"There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open. You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work. You have to keep yourself open and aware to the urges that motivate you. Keep the channel open… No artist is pleased. There is no satisfaction whatever at any time. There is only a queer divine dissatisfaction, a blessed unrest that keeps us marching and makes us more alive than the others."
That "blessed unrest" she describes is what keeps us moving forward. It’s the pull toward something greater, the quiet (or sometimes loud) inner knowing that says: Keep going. Keep growing. There’s more for you here. Even when we don’t have all the answers, even when things feel uncertain, we’re being invited to listen, to trust, to step forward anyway.
If you’re reading this in March of 2025, then you may be feeling this decidedly in your soul, as we are in a time of profound transformation and blooming. I want to acknowledge that this process is one that can feel pretty uncomfortable at times. If you’re feeling it, here are some of my soundest tips to handle this metamorphosis, this shift in energy — aka how to lean into your becoming:
How to Navigate an Energy Shift with Intention:
Listen deeply—meditate, journal, or simply sit in stillness to feel what’s moving within you. If stillness isn’t your thing, use music or Hertz Frequencies to help your energy level up.
Follow the pull – pay attention to what’s calling you, even if it doesn’t make sense yet.
Trust the process – growth isn’t always linear, and clarity often comes after the shift, not before.
Nurture your energy – Reiki, grounding practices, and movement can help recalibrate your system.
Let go of what no longer fits – not everything (or everyone) is meant to come with you into your next chapter.
This transformation goes beyond personal growth. It’s a process of healing, unlearning, softening into our truth, and reclaiming the parts of ourselves we once abandoned. As Rumi suggests, “Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.”
Gabriel Roth speaks to this process in a way that resonates deeply:
"Each of us has the power and responsibility to heal ourselves, to be our own medicine man or woman. Awakening our innate powers of being, loving, knowing, seeing, and healing involves ongoing work at all levels and in all dimensions of our self. Exploring the range of rhythms and emotions, achieving insights into our conditioning and ego, moving through the energy levels of spirit – these are all activities to be integrated into our daily lives."
This is why we continue, why we embrace both the gentle and the uncomfortable shifts, and why we trust that even when we feel uncertain or in between versions of ourselves, something meaningful is unfolding. We are meant to grow, change, and move forward—not because we are incomplete, but because expansion is a natural part of being alive.
So, as we swim through the tides of change, I encourage you to keep the channel open, keep listening, and keep stepping into the unknown. Even if you don’t yet see where it’s leading, trust that it’s taking you somewhere important.
